Our first birthing experience didn’t go to plan and although we intended to have a home birth we ended up with a very medical birth in hospital. This made us realize that the next time we would ensure we had as much help to hand as possible so that we could make the right decisions and stick to our plan.
We decided to use a doula instead of a private midwife because it doesn’t cost as much and we would have a midwife from the local home birth team here in Surrey. We met with a small number of doulas and then we met Wendy who we immediately felt very comfortable with and quickly realized she had the experience and attitude that we were looking for. So that was it she was hired!
Running up to the birth itself we attended hypno-birthing classes but also met a few times with Wendy who was really useful in building on our knowledge we gained at class which made us feel better prepared and more confident.
When the big day arrived Wendy’s presence had a huge impact. During each strong surge Wendy did light touch massage on Tess. This helped her to relax and breathe through the surges. Because of Wendy, Tess was more relaxed throughout the birthing process. Wendy reassured us many times and was also able to support the local midwife team very effectively. The combination of Wendy’s calm presence and her wealth of experience and knowledge created an atmosphere in which we both felt very comfortable and it ultimately led to a very successful home birth within 4 hours of labour! We are very grateful to Wendy and believe that without her the experience would have been very different.